Shit We Don't Tell Mom
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Shit We Don't Tell Mom
We have depression. Now what? We share vulnerable stories of how we manage anxiety, depression, and bipolar disorder while figuring out the not-so-glamours parts of adulting, relationships, and our Asian-Canadian identities. Come join us as we share tools and personal experiences of how to normalize...
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54. Breaking Away from "Asian" Parenting Styles ft. Vincci Tsui
Vincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter...
53. Our Shit: What Happens After A Break Up?
It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly i...
52. How Do We Define Cheating in a Relationship?
Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidel...
51. The Joy and Grief of Adult Friendships
Kristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears ar...
50. How to Heal from Childhood Trauma as a Vietnamese-American Daughter going into Motherhood ft. Tam Tran
Tam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune wi...
49. Attachment Style…It Makes You Feel Some Type of Way
What is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some o...
48. Dopamine, Distractions, and Depression (Re-release)
We decided to share a popular episode from season 1 from the summer of 2020 about how we talked ourselves out of our depressive episodes. We share aud...
47. To Have or Not to Have Babies... and Why
Angie always imaged having babies. Kristy is on team no kids. But lately, they’ve both been having different thoughts. In this episode, we explore why...
46. Unlearning Internalized Sexism in Your Family and Learning Self-Validation ft. Shirvin Lee
**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**
We are joined by psychotherapist Shirvin Lee who gets vulnerable and shares her childhood trauma...
45. Our Shit: What I Learned from Breaking Up a 6 Year Relationship
This is an intimate story about my recent breakup with my partner of 6 years. I share my fear of judgment from friends, staying vs. leaving the relati...
44. Turning Red: Nostalgia and Intergenerational Trauma (Season 3 Finale)
Toronto. Teenhood. Puberty. Friendships. Filial Piety. Emotions! The movie Turning Red is about a 13-year-old girl who is torn between her duties to w...
43. How to Give Less F***s About Dating and Marriage & Find Your Own Happiness ft. Justine Ang Fonte
Justine shares stories of telling her Catholic Filipino parents about dating a black man, potentially not getting married, and potentially not having...
42. How Do We Know If We're Loveable?
Are we loveable? Insecurities can stem from so many different sources but how do we manage them and prevent them from ruining our current and future r...
41. Living a Secret Double Life ft. Special Guest
Teacher by day, gogo dancer by night. We discuss (rant) how we deal with nagging mothers, life as a gogo-dancer, struggling with body image, and how t...
40. Hanging Out With Your Inner Child
Inner child. Trauma. Reparenting. The Little Prince. In this episode, we sit down to talk about the first time that we confronted our inner child and...
39. Using Witchcraft to Connect with Our Chinese Ancestry ft. Mimi Young
Mimi Young is a spirit communicator. She left the corporate 9-5 world to invest in a relationship with the unseen. In this episode, we explore how Sha...
38. Experiences in the Psych Ward for Suicidal Ideations ft. Anuradha Mazumdar
After being hospitalized for a week, Anuradha gets diagnosed with dysthymia. Then things got messy. Unintentionally triggering friends. Fighting with...
37. Our Shit: Adult Friendships and How to Be a Better Friend
Adult friendships. Confrontations. Empathy. Responsibilities. We confront our uncomfortable thoughts and compare our friendship and partnership to a r...
36. Negative Self-Talk and Equating Our Self-Worth with Productivity ft. Lucas Ng
Self-shaming. Struggling relationship. Disappointing Chinese Christian parents. Lucas Ng, Canadian actor and co-host of “Have We Made It Yet” podcast,...
35. The Financial, Physical, and Mental Costs of Our Periods
IUDs. Sex during periods. Pain. Discomfort. The tampon tax and all the other costs associated with our menstruations. Kristy and Angie tackle some bur...
34. I Dated A Narcissist For 6 Years
What is it like to date a narcissist? What happens when you get triggered by other people’s breakup? Living with depression and bipolar, we sometimes...
33. Forgiveness and Gratitude From a Queer Chinese Daughter ft. Xixi Wang
Xixi Wang, founder of Asians for Sex Positivity, discusses what sex positivity means for Xixi and her relationship with her immigrant parents as a que...
32. Our Shit: How to Process and Manage Anxiety
Kristy discusses coping mechanisms for anxiety. What helps us vs. what makes it worse. Moving to a new city is not turning out to be the way she expec...
31. Our Shit: Parenting Guilt and Living For Our Own Happiness
Kristy and Angie are back for a new season and they update everyone on what has been going on in their lives. Angie talks about (puppy) parenting guil...
30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma (Season 2 Finale)
Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face....
29. Judging Our Life Choices: Cultural Identities and Love vs. Sex ft. Stephen Yuan
Is there a gender difference in how we think about sex, cope with depression, and priorities in life? Stephen Yuan shares his thoughts on how he navig...
28. Building Resiliency and Tearing Down Facades ft. Steven Ngo
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27. Our Shit: Suicide Ideations and the Depression Roller Coaster
What is it like to have suicidal ideations? Kristy relapsed into depression and none of her usual depression management strategies worked. We talk abo...
26. Authenticity, Trauma Triggers, and Sex for Validation ft. Lisa Sam-Townsend
The lack of male role models in Lisa's childhood led her to use sexuality to get men’s attention. Her mom physically abused her and they have a compli...
25. Fear of Parenthood and Other Scary Things
Kristy and Angie answer two questions: What are some shit that our kids might not tell us? And what are our Myer-Briggs personalities? Not surprisingl...
24. Life After Surviving a Traumatic Car Accident ft. Kelli Chu
Kelli Chu survived a traumatic car accident from a drunk driver. She opens up about the regrets, the dark places, and what she hasn’t told her mom abo...
23. Masculinity ft. Lance Gee & Eric Wu (Off the Wok)
2 Asian men get vulnerable with us and share their fears, shames, and insecurities. Lance Gee and Eric Wu from over at Off The Wok discuss losing a j...
22. Social Justice with Your Asian Parents ft. Irving Chong (Asians in Space)
Irving Chong from Asians in Space joins us to share his experience growing up in Alberta, Canada as one of the few Asian kids in the neighbourhood. We...
21. Managing Expectations as an Asian Millennial ft. Natalie Cheung (Yellow Bee Pod)
Natalie from Yellow Bee Pod joins us to share her experience transitioning out of her civil engineering job to an outspoken supporter of Asian identit...
20. What Makes Me Bipolar
What is bipolar disorder, what does it mean, and who has it? Do you think someone you care about might be bipolar? In this episode, your hosts Kristy...
19. The Handbook for Adulting ft. Angela Kim (The Why Moments)
Instructions on how to be an adult and live happily ever after. Do you want one? What if we were already given one but we just don’t like what is writ...
18. Masturbation & Sexual Consent ft. Karen Zheng (MX Asian American) - Part 2
How did you learn about sex? Did you have sex first or masturbate first? Did you ever get the “sex talk” from your parents/guardians? This is a specia...
17. Exploring Our Sexual Identities ft. Karen Zheng (MX Asian American) - Part 1
How are our sexual identities formed? Is it from the media that we consume like magazines and porn? And how do we go about unlearning the dysfunctiona...
16. Embracing Your Sexuality
Sex is everywhere but it is also taboo. Why? And how can we overcome this shyness around sex so we can embrace our own sexuality? **Content Warning**:...
15. Flatulence, Love, and Discomfort (Season 1 Finale)
Kristy and Angie get together (virtually) to wrap up Season 1 by answer questions from our listeners and Season 1 guests. We discuss public flatulence...